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Post by Cain Da'arnesh on Sept 29, 2012 22:30:44 GMT -6
Alright, her gall bladder has GOT to come out and many doctors agree with me. The fact of the matter is that it's making her miserable and she essentially just wallowed in self pity. All things considered, I believe I performed admirably. I did not falter and I did not hesitate to demonstrate to her that this is only temporary and that her issues will go away soon when we get in touch with the cardiologist to clear her for surgery. (No worries! That's just SOP when dealing with heavy anesthesia and I assure you that her heart is just fine!)
So that said, is wallowing in self pity every now and again healthy? I mean, surely it isn't if it becomes habitual? Should I be monitoring her speech and behavior carefully to make sure that she doesn't trip up in this matter?
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Post by sin on Sept 30, 2012 8:18:08 GMT -6
If she's in physical pain, this is going to affect her way of being. Be supportive, but don't be over-bearing and apathetic to her suffering.
I can remember when I went through my surgery and I was rather quiet about my internal suffering. It was painful, it made me miserable and no matter what positive thoughts I could muster up, it didn't help alleviate the physical pain which was beyond my control. I didn't wallow in pity, but I'm fairly certain my body language and facial expressions said otherwise.
My son didn't know what to do, he just knew I was in pain and was suffering quietly. It made him feel bad, he felt helpless and the best I could do was to remind him that it was my suffering and he should not take it upon himself. It was not his cross to bare.
CS
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Post by Cain Da'arnesh on Oct 1, 2012 0:31:47 GMT -6
I suppose you're right Cora... I should be supportive sure, but that's really all I can do right? Well that and get her to her appointments in my little Ford sedan...
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